My Daughter’s Keeper is the compelling story of a father’s journey to strive against mounting odds to be present in his daughter’s life. The story reveals the complexities of parenting as the author wrestles with his past to face self-imposed challenges in order to transition from a man given to selfish leanings to an open-hearted and dutiful father.
My Daughter’s Keeper tugs on the heartstrings of any parent who has endured the pain and challenges of co-parenting, custody disputes, or separated families. Written with accountability and compassion, this book has been crafted to challenge readers to consider the ways our circumstances, including the painful ones, set us up to develop into better versions of ourselves.
Theme: Writing Insight
1. What made you write a book?
I wanted to create a source of hope for fathers going through this journey and foster understanding for women involved with fathers experiencing child custody challenges. Many men still labor under the false narrative that men don’t express their feelings. So even in very emotionally traumatic moments, like being unfairly separated from your child, some men adhere faithfully to this destructive script. They do not share emotionally. I decided to be emotionally transparent in my book about what I experienced during my child custody journey.
2. How did you do research for your book?
Personal involvement. I lived this journey and I decided to be open about my experiences to hopefully help other fathers. I also attended several fatherhood support groups where I was able to hear stories of pain, perseverance, and triumph. These stories helped me to deepen my understanding of the importance of a father in a child’s life.
3. Which was the hardest character to write? The easiest?
The hardest character to write was myself prior to my mental and spiritual growth. It was painful to revisit a person that I thought was a “good guy,” but was more flawed than I realized at the time. The easiest character to write was Anyanwu. She was a constant source of inspiration and relentless reminder for me to always be the best version of myself. Writing about her was refreshing.
4. Where do you get inspiration for your stories?
I am inspired by the brilliant kaleidoscope of the human experience, especially family dynamics. I love watching and learning from people. If we all take time to honestly and openly experience and learn from people’s journey, I believe the world would be a much better place.
5. How long have you been writing?
I developed a love for writing very young. I remember writing short stories and poems. It wasn’t until this book that I decided to share my writing with the world. I felt deeply connected to this story and was very excited about the level of vulnerability displayed on the pages. Writing this story made me feel like a “real” writer, vulnerable, raw, creative, and most of all real.
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About the author
Over the years, Winkler has continuously moved towards his goal of helping create a better world by motivating others. His passionate advocacy for families and children eventually led to the co-founding of Manhood Camp, which was established to provide life-skills programs and community engagement opportunities for young men in the Los Angeles area. Recently, Manhood Camp started working directly with fathers via its monthly support group, Fatherhood Circle. Winkler holds a bachelor’s degree in psychology and has been working in the community advocacy field for more than a decade. His organization’s event, Choose Peace: A Community Celebration and Information Fair, brought together over twenty-six community organizations and received a special appearance and congratulatory speech by the Los Angeles city council president, Herb J. Wesson Jr.